Excellent answers from a family who went through their son becoming active in the alt-right. The mother and her son (who joined and then left the alt-right) both answer questions.
I gave the following advice to one of my children, who’s now 18 and itching to get a tattoo because some of his friends and others he admires have them and he attributes coolness and other intangible qualities to tattoos.
“Tattoos are a quick and effective means of changing your external appearance, decorating yourself with symbols to enhance your social standing or remind yourself of certain human/non-human relationships or ideas. There’s nothing inherently wrong with this and many people enjoy their tattoos with few or no regrets.
I have one major concern with the easy availability of tattoos – the widespread practice of young people, who often lack the life experience to understand the long term consequences of their actions and the patience to wait out their impulses, getting tattoos as a means of quickly changing who they are, making easy but long lasting changes to their external appearance rather than doing the long and difficult work of changing themselves.”
I’m not sure whether my thoughts helped my son think more deeply about why he wants a tattoo. So far, he hasn’t gotten one. I hope if/when he does, he does so after having reflected on what he hopes to gain by it.
I had to share this minute of beauty.
Mary Oliver died Thursday, 17 January 2019. It’s worth knowing her. The New Yorker piece below will introduce you to her world and the YouTube video features her reading one of her most popular poems.
The Bad Girls Bible is an online guide to sexuality, primarily geared toward women but valuable for men as well. It’s worth a look whether you’re looking to improve some aspect of your sex life, explore sex techniques, or are just curious.
I found this lesson fun, clever and thoughtful. Hopefully you’ll enjoy it too.
Humans at their best. Thank you to these women for bringing some much needed beauty into the world.
The wisdom in this graphic seems obvious, but I’m guilty of violating it and I know from experience it’s common for others to do so. It’s worth tucking this observation in the back of your mind to help you encourage someone who’s struggling when they take a step in the right direction.
Fred Rogers was a beautiful human being. I’m inspired by his example.
Here, Candid Camera tricks Fred Rogers and is surprised by his unruffled reaction to not having a TV in his hotel room